I lurk a lot. it's very educational. often I read whole threads about something I am interested in, but I don't feel I am educated enough on the topic to comment. Sometimes after a while & after reading from other sources I will jump in.

Lurking is a good way to see how a potential romantic interest interacts with others. I had a crush on a guy here but lurking cured it. He obviouly enjoys belittling others.

I lurk in some threads I would be embarressed to post in. I often have a "everyone else is doing it" feeling & want to see how my values & experiences compare with others. So far I havn't felt the need to lower my standards, but I have learned a few things.

I've felt the same way before, just keep jumping in! Post whats on your mind...people will either answer it or not. It's like talking to friends in person in a way, it lets you vent.

NG