my husband wants me to pay for half of the insurance premiums for our son! He is out of his mind! He makes over 100,000 a year. I make a measly $7.00 bucks an hour!

I wanted to have an uncontested divorce, but he is being a butt! I am going to get a lawyer and request that he pay for my attorney fees!

they will prolly make him pay since he makes more money, been there done that

He's toast now!

he can ask for whatever he wants, but he won't get it. there are mandated calculations used to come up with support costs based on incomes - don't worry beauty. but, yes, get a lawyer!

YOU SHOULD.
And HE WILL PAY....

thanks

You go girl... Your salary vs. his will put him in a helluva mess.. Too bad he couldn't be nice about it...

I'm praying he does....he thinks he is getting over on me, because I have no money.

Try to reconcile with him. Divorce except in cases of abuse or adultery rots. If there's any chance, recommit. Otherwise, yeah, get a decent lawyer and ask for him to pay your fees. Usually its customary that the guy pays the fees for the wife, especially if he initiated the divorce proceedings, I think.

Most lawyers will give you the initial consultation free and can tell you the deal for free in the initial appointment.

Good luck to you and God Bless You. If you send your name to my e-mail I will pray for you and your family.

Geo.

We have tried......have got back together....same problems. He doesn't make his teenager respect me and HE IS A PASTOR! A Pastor that wants a divorce! Imagaine that!....out of my hands....

ifyou get custody of the kid the judge will make him pay the premium and pay you child support so you will be alright sweetie!!!!!

Ask for alamony and child support

Had the same problems in my second marriage. There's two things that helped me. One was the Total Transformation Program. It cost about $500 though. It basically teaches to give kids consequences. They won't learn without.

If the kid talks back you tell them, there's no excuse for abuse (especially if they're cursing at you). You tell them you want to be respected and you withdraw. Tell them you enjoy their company (or not) and tell them you'll be glad to talk to them again when they're ready to hold a decent conversation, then make them withdraw to their room or out of the house or withdraw yourself from the situation.

If the kid won't do homework or go to school, you let the school authorities deal with it. Let the kid flunk a class or two, let him or her get detention or suspended or whatever and back up the school authorities when the kid comes whining to you. say, too bad. I hate when that happens. It's rough when I can't attend something or do what needs to be done, isn't it? You ask.

A cheaper alternative (much cheaper) is the Love and Logic series of books. They are about $20 apiece and can offer very valuable advice on how to deal with difficult kids and spouses.

I've been listening to Nancy DeHaan lately. She's been talking about 1 Samuel 25 where Nabal, a fool, confronts David. Abigail, a wise woman, realizes that just because a man behaves like a fool, she does not have to. She had the resources available, decided who to talk to and who not to, and went and took the action she needed to.

Relationships take commitment. Being in them for our enjoyment isn't always the way to go. That being said, though, I did end my first marriage because I did not know these things. Now that I do know there things, I wish I had not.

Good luck to you. You will be in my prayers. God Bless You. I hope he gives you strength. I hope you have family and a church family you can talk all this over with and that can support you and help you at this time.

I dated an ex-pastor once. He was a judgmental, passive aggressive, insecure A-hole.

I wish you well in your situation.

You will find alot of Pastors are that way!

How can you tell if someone's passive-agressive?

Hey! Passive aggressive isn't all that bad.

Anyway, talk to an attorney on the matter they know more about it.

Find a good lawyer. My lawyer saved my life and secured my children's future. I give big kudos, to her.

Good Luck!

There is no talking to him about reconcilliation. It's his choice...one that I believe he will regret. How does one walk away from his son and claim to be a Christian and a Pastor at that! He wants a divorce .....that's what he will get. I can live without the misery.

Pretty easy... you know they are messing with you and act all innocent. They often do things that they know will anger you, but are couched in a "nice" way.

Passive-aggressive: Pertaining to behavior in which feelings of aggression are expressed in passive ways as, for example, by stubbornness, sullenness, procrastination, or intentional inefficiency. (MedicineNet)

Example: washing red t-shirt in white load of laundry. Then they say, Oh honey, I'm so sorry. I was just trying to help you out.