ladies how does a man tell you hes widowed without looking like hes trying to replace the lost one

Don't whine, just tell them & see what happens.

Widower 11 yrs, May 2.

First, why would you just be asking the ladies? That would be more of a give-away that you are looking for attention. Don't you think?

Now there's a real man for ya!

your right adventuous stupid of me thanks

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and in answer, i can see where this might be hard for a woman because losing a love like that can't be replaced. you just have to honest, and ready, and let her know you have room in your heart for another. good luck!

No, not stupid, but at least you can see it from another view. and you had the courage to respond back also. Since you are new to the forums, can be kind of tough and we do have a LOT of people just looking for attention and use many ploys, including the loss of someone, to get such attention.

And sorry for your loss.

Your situation is a dual edge, but can be in your favor, if you are truly ready to start another relationship. Yes, you lost the women you loved. But that can be seen as you at least know HOW to love a woman. So instead of seeing it as "replacement", it can be viewed as you have the right heart and character to truly love.

So make it more a point to avoid too much time on the subject, although at some point it does need to be discussed if a serious relationship develops. But I would think showing that you know how to truly love is the most important thing the next woman in your life will want to know.

Good luck!

No matter what you tell some..they are so hung up with the deceased one, that they make you feel your beneath them. Some it doesn't matter what the reasons are, or how they percieve the past....widower 5 yrs August 26,,,,good luck to you.

Just put it in your profile and if they have questions let them ask. Depending on how many details they want, they'll let you know. Being widowed is NOT looking for attention. It is what it is..life. And anyone with any sense knows you don't "replace" people, you just have made a choice to not be alone. Be sure you are ready first. Good luck

very true adventurousone...good points.

Simply indicate that while you lost your spouse some time ago, you are single now and are ready to move on. Like bastet said, let a potential love interest know you have room in your heart for someone new.

If you frequently talk about your deceased spouse, you clearly communicate to the new person that you are not ready to move on.

Telling a woman you're widowed does not communicate trying to replace the lost one per se. Yet, if you try to COMPARE your lost love to your new love interest and it's obvious, to you and/or to her, then you are communicating a desire to replace; it's not a matter of LOOKING like you're trying to replace.
You are.

Good luck

I just wanted to add to you, that depending on the length of time since the loss of your wife, you might be better served on sites for widowed people. There are several if you google it.