One of my close guy friends admitted to me on Friday that he has feelings for me. I used to have feelings for him about 6 months ago, but he didn't return them so I got over it. I was completely shocked when he told me that he realized that he really does like me more than a friend and wants to date me.

Then the next day we talk more, and he tells me that he can't date me at all because I used to date one of his friends, and he couldn't do that to him.

I got pretty angry that he would tell me that he has feelings for me (knowing I used to have them for him) only to tell me that there was nothing he wanted to do about it.

We got together last night and talked about it more. We sort of smoothed things over and now we're "okay", but I still feel pretty angry. I feel like he was selfish in telling me all of this out of the blue, without thinking of the consequences.

Any thoughts? Am I right in still being angry, or am I being dramatic?

Never go into a relationship angry.You will always have in the back of your mind what made you angry in the first place.

kick him to the curb!

It seems that you may be more mature than him and it took him longer to come to the same conclusion as you did. Him being honest with you could make your friendship better especially since you two are still talking. It could be a friendship that wasn't meant to be anything more than a friendship since you two seem to be out of phase with each other.

punch him supergirl

I'd say a little dramatic, because things didnt turn out how you wanted them to, but a bit I can understand your feelings.

All he did was clear the air and tell you his feelings, I kind of admire him for being a true friend (doesnt want to date/you dated his friend).

Seems like he's the type of person I'd like to have as a friend.

it never works out.trust me ive gone threw this about 4 times .
every time completly different scenaro's but same exact outcome. disaster!!!!!

I agree.

Hi Charlie....how's the family?

Well we definitely aren't getting into a relationship. There are several reasons we shouldn't.

One of them is that since about a week ago, I've been in the process of setting him up with my roommate. They both have been smitten with each other for a while, and they've been wanting me to facilitate them possibly starting something

Maybe I should've mentioned that before, but that's another reason why I was a little perturbed. I feel like he put me in a really awkward position, between him and my roommate.

Ya think?????
What a loser. You don't need him.

You are setting him up with your roomate and you feel he put you in an awkward position? Hmmm. I would find a new roomate.

I think you have the right to be upset. It was selfish of him to say anything. He tried to extract emotion out of you that he himself was not ready to deal with.

I'd be upset, maybe not enough to end a friendship, but def. keep him at arms length for awhile.

You are entitled to your feelings, and he is entitled to his, but a true friend won't hurt their friend with their feelings.

Sometimes in a friendship between two people you may have strong feelings but are scared to bring them out for feel of losing the relationship. So you keep it the way it is.

WOW!!! What a yo-yo ride for you!!!!!!!!!!

it almost sounds like....he is trying to keep a door open with you in case the room mate doesnt work out...be honest with your roomamte about what happened...so if it comes out you are not looking like the heel...and i dont know if i would be friends...even at a distance..capital letters, trouble...

I never understood the idea that a person can never date someone who once dated a friend. If it was ugly, messy, dramatic, then I can kinda see it.

But if a friend dated a person, then a year later you realize interested in that person, you already know it wasn't meant to be between them, so why not give it a chance. It isn't like your cheating.

I always thought it sounded selfish. "I dated soandso so no one I know can date soandso now."

I agree. His friend and I broke up last May, so almost a year now. And we're totally still friends. It was an amicable break-up completely.