I need some help guys and gals, i AM IN A RELATIONSHIP WITH A GUY WHO
HAS NEVER HAD ANY KIDS. i HAVE 2 GROWN DAUGHERS and 1 has 3 children.
Sorry about the caps.. but anyway sometimes they need halp with bills or
groceries, not real often but often enough. Dave gets upset with me if I
send them any money. and no Its not his money I'm sending. I work for
what I have. What is yor take on this?

I say your kids are blood so if they need help do like you ve been
doing. if he can t accept that then he needs to move on out

Do you all help your kids, or is it just me?

I don t have any, but have gone to my parents to borrow $50 or $100 then
payed them back a few days later

its none of his freakin business what u do with your own money for your
children. they come first, that your babies.

Well its like this, I do help them some, maybe to much. a couple of days
ago there was a drive by shooting 2 doors from them, and now I am scared
for them and my daughter is scared. WHen I told Dave I wanted to help
them get moved, he jumped all over me. saying they will never be able to
make it if I keep helping them . I agree to some degree but what do I
do, I feel like i need to help this time. he just hates to see me work
so hard and just give my money away. Which he is right I do work hard.
My daughter is young and dumb, with 3 kids and her husband is doing all
he can do to make ends meet.

you should help them when they really need it but at the sametime you
don't want them to become dependant on you, that can only hurt them down
the road

I know, but this time I think they need help.

to move? well drive by shootings can happen anywhere, there are various
reasons for such activity and most common being , gangs and then drugs

I do have to say that they more commonly happen in the lower class
neighborhoods though and not so much in the wealthier class, the
wealthier class drive by's most often occur from a disgruntled lover
from a love triangle or ex

When they moved there this past April they didn't know the neiborhood,
but after getting there they realized they made a bad move. They won't
even let the Kids go outside and play anymore becuase of it. I just hate
it for them.

yes the kids should not have to live like they are in a war zone,
unfortunately in todays society this is going to happen

hey those r your kids! they might b grown but they r still your kids &
you love them thats why you do what u can for them! sometimes i need
help to from my mom & im a young single mom trying to make it on my own
cause her father isnt & will not b in her life so u do what your heart
tells u to do & dont worry about what he says!!!! you sound like a great
mom

I help my daughter, a lot more than I should, and have been supporting
my parents, (now just my dad) these past 3 or so years.

I say help them move to get to some place better, but be careful it
doesn't become a habit. My daughter thinks I am an ATM half the time.
You will feel better when they are in a safer place and the kids will
too. Would think your boyfriend would too.

I would help them, would never forgive myself if something happened and
I didn't help. Think your boyfriend could be more supportive, but just
my 2 cents.