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JUST MOVED!!
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Hey, all you Southern Minnesota folk, I just moved to Blue Earth, MN, and don't know anybody here lol. I'm still looking for someone to start a relationship with, so hopefully I'll find her in my new town.
Anyone else from this area? |
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How do you meet new people?
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The only time I really meet new people is when I'm hanging out with someone I already know. From time to time they'll have a friend come over that I haven't met before, so I'm assuming that counts.
Also, I was able to meet quite a few new people when I started my new job. I don't really go out to bars or clubs or anything like that to meet new people... I've never really liked that kind of scene. |
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Do you have Facebook?
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I have facebook because it's the only way I can keep in touch with what's going on in my family. apparently when they all discovered that site they all forgot how to use a phone lol
Mom: "Did you hear your brother is getting out of the Air Force?" Me: "Why didn't anybody tell me this?" Mom: "It was posted to facebook, didn't you see?" |
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Officially back in the pool
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Apparently I posted this in the wrong thread... Sorry about that, I wasn't sure where to post it.
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Officially back in the pool
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Well, I did it. I managed to hold off dating long enough to get a degree, and use it to get a job. I figure now that I have a job that allows me to go out and have fun from time to time, maybe it's time to start looking for someone to spend that time with, right?
The single life sure does get lonely when all of your friends are married with kids, and always on family vacations lol.... That and they always seem to be baffled as to how I'm single. |
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Born and raised in Minnesota. The town I live in right now is actually only 15 minutes west of where I was born. I love this area, it's all farmland and small towns.
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Ever lose hope?
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There were times when I wasn't always proud to wear that uniform. Power trips and politics can beat a man's pride down, but after living that life my heart will always be with the military especially the infantry. Ive been out for about 5 years now and that picture is about 6 years old. That's my best friend Tim in the middle there. Most of the people I knew in the infantry came from broken homes, from broken lives. I wanted to do what I could for them and I feel as if I failed them somehow. I still remember their dreams and hopes they were such simple things love, family, friendship. Nothing grand, those dreams the dreams of the dead still haunt me. I still hear their voices sometimes they whisper to me to tell our story. I need to write their stories and in doing so I need to cope with my own failings. It's not an easy thing to do to detach yourself and look at yourself through the eyes of others to see your faults, your vulnerability, and at times your pettiness. My old team leader said hello to me at the gym in Afghanistan. I was so full of vitriol and hate I just gave him a dirty look. He died a week later in one the villages on the Mazar Shariff. Thats the foolishness I have to deal with in telling their stories...my own failings as a man... Guess I was luck while serving as I was proud every day to wear the uniform and I am still proud to wear it. I came from a broken home too but the military quickly adapted me into their family. I think the strength I gained has made being alone alot easier to cope with. I love the military, and I was proud to wear that uniform when I could. When I had those ACU's on I felt like I was complete, like I knew what I was supposed to do. It was the greatest experience of my life. I only regret that I couldn't stay in. |
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you started this thread in one frame of mind, and now you are in another. you are making you right and you can continue as long as you wish. someone watches over you even when you don't. i wouldn't be surprised to find that someone has been praying for you, and you will be led to where you need to be. listen brother, you are being led, look for the signs He is giving you. your life matters to Him I really hope someone is praying for me. Even for something small. 
I like to see it that way. It's definitely a mood lifter. |
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God gave up on nobody. It's mankind that continues to walk away from our father. We do... Today go to Wal Mart and just watch people. So many people are obsessed with owning the best of everything, especially technology. So many people are more worried about buying that new plasma screen than they are putting that $5 in the collection plate. Do you need the 50" screen? I don't think so, settle for the 30" and then give some money to the church. That money will go to helping people who can't even afford a t.v., or food for that matter. After spending some time thinking, and having one WEIRD dream, I've started realizing some things. God is most present in what we do, how we treat others. If we all act selfish, the world will appear selfish. If you take the time to help someone who truly needs it, good things will come back to you. Call it karma if you want, but I want to believe it's God rewarding us for acting how He intended mankind to act. |
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you started this thread in one frame of mind, and now you are in another. you are making you right and you can continue as long as you wish. someone watches over you even when you don't. i wouldn't be surprised to find that someone has been praying for you, and you will be led to where you need to be. listen brother, you are being led, look for the signs He is giving you. your life matters to Him I really hope someone is praying for me. Even for something small. |
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Ever lose hope?
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SecretAsianMan75,
Thanks for your post. And there aren't enough thank yous in the world to show my appreciation for what you do for this country. I tried it and got a medical discharge, but if I could I'd be in that uniform too. |
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I hope you're right, and if that's the case I hope it continues. I'd like to feel happy again and not have to fake a smile... It's been a while.
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invite someone, that puts you in a position to have to go That's a good idea. I have a friend I used to work with that's the same religion as I am... I could put on a happy face for a bit, maybe it would get me out of my rut. |
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Ever lose hope?
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I feel like that right now. 
I'm just gonna take a hot shower and go to bed. Here's hoping for a better tomorrow. 
Stay positive, we'll get through it. You're not alone! 
On a side note I have no idea how you do that.... Showers wake me up... If you can sleep after a shower more power to you! Also, thanks for reminding all of us that we're not alone. |
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Thanks, guys. It helps hearing/reading these things. I know I should attend a Mass, but it's just hard to get back into it after getting in this mindset. I've felt very abandoned lately.
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Sometimes I wonder... I was raised Roman Catholic, and my Mother always stressed the importance of how much God loves us all. In recent years I've started to wonder about this. I'm wondering if God gave up on me because of my past.
My Mother says God is testing me, and that I have to stay strong. I'm wondering why my test seems to be so hard. I was raised to believe that He will never burden us with more than we can carry, but I don't know how much more I can carry. In the past few months I've strayed from my church... I haven't attended a Mass since November, I just don't have the will to go. Are there any Roman Catholics that have maybe read the Bible a few more times than me that can possibly offer some advice or reassurance? Maybe some motivation? |
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Ever lose hope?
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Well, it sucks that you feel this way too. Knowing what I feel and think every day, I don't wish this on anyone. At the same time, though, it helps knowing that I'm not the only one (please don't take that the wrong way). It makes me think that because other people go through this, maybe there's someone out there that understands this enough that I may be able to talk to. Thanks for your honesty, thanks for the offer.
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Divorce
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I got divorced back in 2008, and it was tough. It took 6 months for the divorce to get done, and it was a long 6 months. I became seriously depressed, lost my job, and lost my home. I ended up moving in with a friend who saw me through the entire thing, and then months afterwards as well. I originally told myself I'd never be in a relationship again, I was done with love, etc. It's been a few years now, and time has a way of healing. I won't lie... I still think about my ex-wife from time to time, but it's in a different way now. I think about how things were in the beginning of our relationship, and it's more happy thoughts. Thinking about those times helped me to realize why I want to be in a relationship again... Just stick it out, and DEFINITELY vent your feelings when you need to. Before you know it, you'll be happy and smiling again.
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Ever lose hope?
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I like to think I've accomplished quite a bit and really turned my life around for the better, but it never seems good enough. I can't help but feel like I'm still failing, and I really don't know why. Because of this I'm constantly asking myself why I even bother trying, and it's like I have this little voice in the back of my head telling me that misery is all I'll ever know... Happiness is something I don't deserve. My phone never rings, people who claim to be my friends never seem to be there when I need them most.
Has anyone else ever felt like this? How do you deal with it? How do you wake up every day and deal with the feeling of being completely alone? How do you tell yourself it will get better? How do you make it better? How do you keep the will to live when you sometimes wonder if you're even supposed to? I've come here because at this point I feel like I don't have anyone in my life I can talk to about this... I've posted on this board in the past and there are people here who honestly seem to care about others... I'm hoping this time is no different. |
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I'm back
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I'm not really a new person, but this seemed like the appropriate forum to post this in.....
I was a member here a while ago, but certain aspects of my life needed more immediate attention than the search for a companion. I decided to take a step back, focus on myself, and figure out what I needed to do to make my life happier. Well, that's finally underway. I'm enrolled in online college, working a full-time job, and I have my own place again (I was living with friends). Now that things are looking better, I've decided I don't want to be alone anymore. Now I'm looking for a woman that would like to start out as friends or maybe some dating, and just take it slow to see how things work out. Hopefully now that my life is on a better path I will be able to find what I'm looking for. |
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