Maybe your trying too hard to make them like you, I don't think you should have to try. Just be yourself, that way if a girl does fall for you it'll be for who you are and not what your doing to make them happy. Otherwise you'll end up with a conditional relationship, and they rarely last as conditions are always changing.

@ Pacific

How dare you personally attack me for answering someones question as honestly as I can? I don't care if you don't agree with me, but you don't get to insult me because you disagree with me. Someone as seasoned as you should practice a little more self control.

Women get bombarded with tons of messages from guys, they have to be picky about who they respond too. I've noticed you get more attention if your active in everything, including the forums. Keep at it, doesn't happen over night. Gl

Adding more about yourself and elaborating on your interests would be my first suggestions. Gl man

Isn't he still part of your life if you are friends?

Exactly my point

Sry to read that man, society really sux sometimes. My father went through that twice, but we still have a good relationship with him. It definitely took more work but it works out. Don't get held up on societies idea of what a family should be, your a family no matter what happens.

I've been in relationships with a few mothers, some good and some bad. There is simply more to consider before being with a single mother. I'll still take the time to get to know her, but there are more things I need to be aware of and find out about. Some of the things I've noticed may turn people away are:

She is looking for a father for her kids, love comes second

Her ex will always be part of your lives

The kids may hate you

Less freedom to do the things you want to do. Which is fine if she is ok with you doing your own thing a few times a month, but a lot of the women I've been with only want you to do things with them.

Cost, women with children are more expensive. I know every women is gonna come on here and say they pay for their own kids, but I'm only going off of my experiences.

Can't be sexually wild. Isn't one of the best parts of a new relationship living out each others fantasies and being all crazy? Kids make that very difficult, and sex often gets cut short or its rushed when you have some time alone.

How they talk too you. Women with kids have a tendency to talk to their companion like a child when they are annoyed or angry. I understand why they get into this habit, but its still condescending.

Expectations, i hate being expected to do things. Women with children often expect a lot more from their companion.

Less Flexible, women with kids can't be very flexible because they have a lot of responsibility.

Your number 2... If your gonna be with a single parent, you have to accept you'll never number 1 in their life. They usually let you know that, its very sweet to hear...

Ty for the correction webster, but I said what I meant. In my opinion being horny only confuses people, lust and love can feel very similar. I'd rather get to know who she is and fall for that rather then just be with her for her lucious body

Having personality traits that I find attractive in a person, like selflessness, honest, consideration, understanding, temperance, acceptance, nonjudgmental, her type of humor, the way she thinks or type of ideas she has, self sufficient, and things like that. If I'm having a lot of fun and I really enjoy her I will start to see her as more attractive physically.

Similarly if she tries to manipulate me, asks me to do things for her that she can do on her own, is obnoxious, rude, controlling, inconsiderate, selfish, narrow minded, unforgiving and all that I will start to see her as less attractive physically

How she makes me feel is a big part of it, but not how she makes me feel physically with her body or how much she can turn me on. How happy, content, and fulfilled I am around her is whats important too me. How she feels about me and why is also very important too me when deciding if I want to be more then friends with her.

Lol, IC, ty...

Lol can't argue with that, and just to be clear what is the trade again?

I love the friend zone, its a great way to start. If you are able to be friends and then fall in love after you already know each other really well then you'll have something real that will last and be based on each others friendship instead of sex. I'll never understand why people enter into a relationship and then try to get to know each other...

If you both met a girl and you both decided you wanted to bring her into the relationship to be a gf to the both of you I'd say go for it. But if she met a girl and fell for her while she was still with you I'd walk away. Who wants to be with someone who looks for another companion while they are already in a relationship?

Which studies, can you site your sources please?

I'm more attracted to personality, but it may also be because I'm physically attracted to a wide range of women. I've also noticed that the more I get to know a person the more or less physically attractive they become to me depending on their personality.

Which jobs should a man be doing?

I agree Larson, you, her and anyone else who like to make rude comments should leave me alone. Don't worry about my relationships, focus on your own life.

I can take criticism when I ask for an opinion, people who give their opinion without being asked for it are being obnoxious. You, her and about 3 other regulars in these forums are very obnoxious and I'm not gonna "deal" with that no matter how much you think I should. I avoid the people I don't get along with, why is it so hard for you to do the same?

Stephen Hawking had a special about this that was very interesting. He talked about a guy waking up to get a drink, was it a choice or a reaction. Then he chose orange juice because of a memory, so did he choose or was it the result of the memory.

Personally, I think its a little of both. Since we can rationalize why we make certain choices and change it. Its amazing how little we know about ourselves isn't it?

Actually you posted replied to my comment with something that had nothing to do with this topic. Even though I've repeatedly asked you to leave me the hell alone.