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Fri 03/09/12 09:29 AM




dang its good too...grumble


lol i bet it was wish it could show itself lol i sent you a friend request

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Fri 03/09/12 09:29 AM




dang its good too...grumble


lol i bet it was wish it could show itself lol i sent you a friend request

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Fri 03/09/12 09:26 AM



youll like this onelaugh


cant see it

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Fri 03/09/12 09:25 AM




laugh


ROFL so my dog lol ha ha ha ha im laughing so hard hat a tear came to my eye lol

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Fri 03/09/12 09:22 AM




lol i dont like cats im a dog man but that is to cute lol

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Fri 03/09/12 09:20 AM



wtf..why??huh rofl rofl


rofl slaphead frustrated ROFL so stupid you half to laugh lol ha ha ha ha what the hell was this guy thinking ROFL!!!!

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Fri 03/09/12 08:46 AM
yet nothing to do... lol its friday and nowhere to go nothing to do hmm so board!! lol

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Fri 03/09/12 08:22 AM
lol i got one that i bet none of you have done.. i was waceing a friend in WA state we somehow passed a cop that nither one of us say i pulled over as soon as i saw the lights when he cam up to my car he said "son do you know why i stopped you?" i said in the most polite way i could "officer i do" he simply replyed "why" so i looked up at him and said with the straitest face i could "because you want one of my dounuts" then i reached over to grab one for him and he walked away... so i ate it lol.. of corse i got a ticket.. that sucked to..

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Thu 03/08/12 09:24 PM


You are picking the wrong women. Simple.



I agree completley you are picking the wrong women!!!! All the girls who have walked all over you isnt because you were too nice its just that you werent mean to be together maybe they werent the right girl for you





ok so how do you go about finding the right one other than what i have tryed.. obviosly being friends is not working to well. lol

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Thu 03/08/12 09:18 PM









Ah, you start off as friends first? Once a friend, always a friend.


a good relationship that lasts can't start any other way


Yes, but if you're not clear about your intentions and where you want the relationship to go, you won't get what you're looking for.


my last relashionship was clear or so i thought it was we where sappose to be getting married june 22 2012 already had the dress the tux it all was planed out we where also trying for a kid so yea it was all in the open she just left and walked away just like we where never together.


That's not something that would be easy to get over. Are you sure you're ready to start dating again?


im not looking to start dateing im looking for friends and if something sparks fom that then it does you cant stop feelings.


Just be sure you're ready to move on before jumping into anything.


yea thats why i say i am looking for a friend so i have time to get over it all im going to stay single for a fue months and then start looking to date that way i have time to gather myself and pick my pices up and put my world back together to be able to move on and continue with my life. life keeps going and as long as you are down the father you will be left behind and i know that i have to take time to gather myself so i dont take out what she did on my next relationship.


Taking time to heal is important. Just as you can't run with a broken leg, you can't love with a broken heart.


that is true. and you have to leave the problems that others have caused you in the past where they belong. in the past thats why im going to go slower than what i did last time lol

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Thu 03/08/12 09:09 PM







Ah, you start off as friends first? Once a friend, always a friend.


a good relationship that lasts can't start any other way


Yes, but if you're not clear about your intentions and where you want the relationship to go, you won't get what you're looking for.


my last relashionship was clear or so i thought it was we where sappose to be getting married june 22 2012 already had the dress the tux it all was planed out we where also trying for a kid so yea it was all in the open she just left and walked away just like we where never together.


That's not something that would be easy to get over. Are you sure you're ready to start dating again?


im not looking to start dateing im looking for friends and if something sparks fom that then it does you cant stop feelings.


Just be sure you're ready to move on before jumping into anything.


yea thats why i say i am looking for a friend so i have time to get over it all im going to stay single for a fue months and then start looking to date that way i have time to gather myself and pick my pices up and put my world back together to be able to move on and continue with my life. life keeps going and as long as you are down the father you will be left behind and i know that i have to take time to gather myself so i dont take out what she did on my next relationship.

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Thu 03/08/12 09:01 PM
nice poem

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Thu 03/08/12 08:47 PM





Ah, you start off as friends first? Once a friend, always a friend.


a good relationship that lasts can't start any other way


Yes, but if you're not clear about your intentions and where you want the relationship to go, you won't get what you're looking for.


my last relashionship was clear or so i thought it was we where sappose to be getting married june 22 2012 already had the dress the tux it all was planed out we where also trying for a kid so yea it was all in the open she just left and walked away just like we where never together.


That's not something that would be easy to get over. Are you sure you're ready to start dating again?


im not looking to start dateing im looking for friends and if something sparks fom that then it does you cant stop feelings.

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Thu 03/08/12 08:43 PM

Wow! a 'nice guy' thread...

Haven't seen one of these in like... a year or so.

Nice guy is a label men apply to opening doors and such.

Personally I think that when a man quites trying to be a Nice Guy...

They become one.

Because they stop whining about opening doors and getting walked on.

and Start opening doors and showing respect. (for themselves as well as their partner)


i do have respect for myself. i am not winning about anything i am simply asking why do woman play so many mind games if they know what they want? i am a Vol. Firefighter and carry myself with high standerds for life if tha is not self respect please tell me what is.

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Thu 03/08/12 08:39 PM



Ah, you start off as friends first? Once a friend, always a friend.


a good relationship that lasts can't start any other way


Yes, but if you're not clear about your intentions and where you want the relationship to go, you won't get what you're looking for.


my last relashionship was clear or so i thought it was we where sappose to be getting married june 22 2012 already had the dress the tux it all was planed out we where also trying for a kid so yea it was all in the open she just left and walked away just like we where never together.

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Thu 03/08/12 08:10 PM
looking to start up some friendships in Newpert News VA!! hit me upwaving

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Thu 03/08/12 07:45 PM


Why is it that when a man treats a girl right (opening there car doors, pay for everything, loves with all there is to love) they walk all over them but when the guy abuses the woman they stay true to them? i have been told that i was to good to be true and had my heart broke to many times because i am to nice. can you please tell me what i do wrong and why yall do that?

You are only 25 and haven't opened enough car doors yet.....your princess will come in due time.......


ha ha ha yea i think i have opend 100x more car doors than most guys my age i have opend car doors for girls sence i was 12 so from 12 to 25... well 26 come the 24th. not many guys my age even have that kind of morals in there life most are worried about who is the next"WOMAN"...lol... that they are going to get drunk and try and get laid from. thats not my style. i like to get to know who i am in a relationship with and me and my recent ex where friends for 3 months befor we started dateing. and as far as my "Princess will come in due time" yea that is starting to look like just a fanticie that people make up because it seems like the ones that want the "NICE GUY" are the ones that use us as doormats.

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Thu 03/08/12 07:27 PM

Perhaps it is because I am older and it is more noticeable to me but in your posts you refer to your ladies as "girls" and you refer to them as "my" and you say grandpa taught you they were the most import "things". You are young and I am sure the women you date are young also so this could explain that. But when you date a "woman", who has self respect, knows how to accept something that is given because the person cares and is not just doing it to impress them then I think you will find being the nice guy will have it's rewards.
Sometimes people are so use to being mistreated they are a little fearful of a kindness being given.



i was refering as "girls" because my fingers are tired and im to lazy right now to type it out as woman. and i refer to the "my" as in the relationships that i have had and i have had only 2 serious relationships in my life the first lasted 4 years but we where young and dumb and didnt know what we wanted and didnt know who we where so it ended the second lasted 2 years and then just ended with no exsplination on why and for the grandpa thing yea a woman should be the most important thing in a mans life exspecily if you are planning on getting married to that woman and haveing a family with her. she should be the #1 priority to him.

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Thu 03/08/12 07:21 PM

No, just saying if you act like a doormat, expect to be treated as such.
If every one you meet seems to be having the same problem, it may be an issue with you that you need to resolve.

Just out of curiosity, do you know how to read people? You may be doing all these nice things, but is that the way they are being received as?

I know when my mom would try to date, when I was a kid, she would get turned off real quick if the guy seemed too nice at first, not that she wanted to be with an a**hole or anything. I don't know quite how to explain it, but being too nice at first can be a red flag.

IDK

i know what you mean there and i mean yea im nice at first but not as nice as i am as the relationship progresses. for instance yea if we go out on a date yea i open the door. always have i do it for my mom if i can beat her there lol. i pay for the meal or movie or what not that we are doing that to is to be exspected but buying them things just cuz in the begining no i dont im not supper nice to start and no im not a stalker and keep tabs 24/7 i let them do what they want as do i do what i want but there is a line that should not be crossed by either person while in a relationship. for instance going to parties while in a relationship while the other is not with you to me that is a downfall and i personly dont like when that is done to many things can happen. i am more of a home body when i am dateing someone unless the one i am dateing is with me then that is when i go do stuff. dont get me wrong i have a life also and friends of my own but when im in a relationship i give it 110% i dont date just random girls i get to know them and become friends first and progress from there so its not like they dont know me b4 we start dateing. where am i going wrong girls please inform me so i can fix what ever it is i am doing wrong.. lol

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Thu 03/08/12 07:05 PM


what do you mean its me not them. i have always treated my girls with the up most respect i open car doors pay for the bills take them out and buy them things do everything that i know possible to keep them happy and everytime i have been walked on and hurt so tell me how is it me?



how old are you , if I may ask? and how old are they generally?

do you ask them how it could be better? what do they tell you?


im 25 and the last one that broke my heart was 22.. when i ask if everything is ok they say "yea baby its fine" then its like boom gone just like that no reason or nothing just gone..