Perhaps the man isn't meeting her needs if she's losing interest in sex.

I don't acknowledge all that behavioral psychology stuff because it reads to me like justifications and excuses. "My wife doesn't understand me." It's whiny and begging for forgiveness.

This is a personal attack. I see no reason to defend myself to you as I've done nothing wrong. And there's simply no benefit in it for me.

I'm done.

Best wishes.

Love is not a feeling or an emotion. You don't have to learn how to hate someone or how to be angry or hungry or tired or how to be afraid of spiders. But you have to learn how to love someone and we all do it differently.

Love is so important to human beings, that it's listed only after physiological and safety needs on Maslow's hierarchy of needs.

First of all, I don't believe my parents "worked" at their relationship. I think they simply accepted each other as they were. I can remember only once when they disagreed. But, they had very clear rolls in the relationship. He worked and made the living, she stayed home, kept the house and raised my sister and me.

I don't understand why a committed, sexual relationship should be work. I don't work at any of my other relationships. I think the more work you do, the more compromises you have to make, the more likely it is you're with the wrong person.

I can get along with anyone that wants to get along. I'll do my part. All the same stuff I do as a single man (dishes, laundry, cooking, cleaning). But, once the nagging starts, once she starts telling me how SHE wants me to be, I start packing my bags. She's no longer a benefit to me and has become a source of stress. So, I tell her, don't let that door hit your butt on the way out. BUT, THEY NEVER LEAVE They just keep nagging until I finally become angry enough to throw them out.

We are so quick to remove children instead of helping.
Were such a vengeful, hateful and punishing society.

If I thought you actually gave a $hit about these women and their babies I would entertain discussion about it.

Ok only to this point. If only the Mother's that deserve to be Mother's had children, and wow what a slippery slope that would be, there would be very few Mother's. But even if we said only inmates do not deserve to be Mom's, another slippery slope, we have to deal with the fact that so far thankfully we have in our society a higher threshold for withdrawing the privilege of Motherhood. Probably because, not that it is in the best interest of the child but the state. Most crimes are not directed towards the children nor are the incarcerations for a lifetime or for that matter the length of a childhood so families are re-uniifed and simply pretending it will work to vacate a particular child to an adoptive family isn't going to happen.

As a society we can not afford to re-parent every inmates child. The process of adoption, if people were decent enough to even consider most of these babies adoptable which the crying shame is they don't, the system as we know would collasp completly. The number of inmate PARENTS is staggering.

And lets be honest these babies do have father's that if we made the effort could be identified in more cases than not. Simply providing better free birthcontrol would reduce a good percentage of these babies but we have already decided we don't allow that either.

It is easy to be all warm and fussy and believe loving adoptive homes exist for every child regardless of the reason but even that is just not so.

Women who claim that they can't find a nice guy when in reality they are looking for a sugar daddy*.

(*sugar daddy being defined as being a man who can give a woman the kind of lifestyle that she wants)

My mother and father were married for 60 years, until my mother died. I don't know why or how they stayed together other than force of will. They both decided to commit to each other and stuck to their word.

I also know a few happy couples today. But, it doesn't seem to be working for a lot of us. I've recently come to understand that I'm really happiest on my own. I don't like the chaos that relationships seem to bring.

What it all comes down to is that we (men and women) don't really need each other anymore. That's why I'm starting to think love and long term committed relationships are outdated concepts.

What if we just decided to be happy on our own and didn't put any expectations on each other? What if we stopped caring about what each other did? We could spend time together doing what we do and then leave each other alone to do whatever.

Crossing the divide: Women finally out-earning men?
Jenna Charlton| Jun 14, 2012 11:50 AM


It's taken awhile, but slowly and surely women are closing the gender earnings gap. Compensation is finally catching up to workforce composition. Studies show that the workforce is almost equally comprised of men and women. With the labour force evening out, paycheques have had some catching up to do. Women are demanding and are finally receiving higher salaries, at times out-earning men.

It’s about time, right? It’s only taken….forever. But as generations of women have increasingly placed greater importance on post-secondary education and careers, equal pay for equal qualifications and work is finally happening. We’re not entirely there yet - on average women who work in comparable roles to men may still earn less - but we’re moving in the right direction.

According to a Pew Research Center study, “young women now surpass young men in the importance they place on having a high-paying career or profession.” Women entering similar roles to men should have always been paid the same, but now as more women than men are increasingly entering high-paying careers we’re starting to see a shift.

I have a couple of friends who out-earn their male partners, and are considered the household breadwinner. This is a huge reversal from those 1950s images of the so-called picture perfect nuclear family. The topic of women earning more than men has been making headlines for the past couple of years. In a 2011 article for The Atlantic, writer Kate Bolick describes male economic dominance as "passing into extinction."

The recent economic collapse didn’t help matters for men. It’s been reported that more men have lost their jobs over the ensuing years than women. A recent Maclean’s article states that, “job losses during the last recession (and the two before it) were mostly incurred by men, who dominate the hardest hit sectors such as construction and manufacturing.” Women are starting to make greater gains in fields such as “medicine, law, upper management and high finance,” and in doing so out earning men and holding on to their jobs during difficult economic times.

This economic shift is also causing societal changes. Women are not getting married as early as they were 50 years ago. Bolick writes that, “women don’t need husbands in the way they used to,” which could account for why “the number of single adults rose to 50% in 2010, compared to 33% in 1950.”

Times are changing. Women are movin’ on up and everyone is adjusting. There are a more stay at home Dads now than there were 10 years ago, and if the studies are any indication of economic, societal and household trends we could see a lot more role reversals in the future. We all still have a ways to go in regard to complete equal pay for equal work but progress is forging ahead. As the workforce evens out, paycheques have no choice but to follow.

People get into relationships because it supplies them with something they want.

They get out of them because their wants are not being met.

Men and women "cheat" in relationships because they perceive something in the relationship is lacking.

The root motivation is "To find more recipients for your seed", but the thought will be "I'm horny". Most men who sleep around DON'T want children. But their body doesn't care what the man wants, it's running on ancient programming. So a straight man will seek out multiple female partners and a gay man will seek out multiple gay partners. You are going to have to stop being so literal about these motivations. We are talking about subconscious motivations for the survival of the species, not plans for Friday night. I would imagine very few men go out on any given night and thinks to himself "I want to get a woman pregnant", but the guy doesn't HAVE to think that, because that's what his body is trying to do regardless of what he wants.

First of all, these aren't my theories. I'm talking about evolutionary psychology. Google it.

The rest of your post is off topic.