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Topic:
Beauty or Brains?
Edited by
exxman
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Tue 08/09/11 01:34 PM
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No problem. As a counterpoint, I would suggest you take a look at Ayn Rand's philosophy of Objectivism. Re: relationship failure statistics, based on my own personal experience, those failure percentages strike me as disturbingly low, if anything. Of course, when your own failure rate is a glaring 100%, any sort of positive figure looks suspicious. Laughs my marriage fail rate is 0% (Never found the right one or maybe i just wasn't right for them, probably a bit of both). And all though i would be at 100% Fail rate on the g/f side, i can say out of those relationships while they did not yield a life partner, they did give me friends and people who i still communicate with on regular basis. So they were not failed they were just misunderstood in the dimensions we had put them in. And FYI it is an ex g/f that sent me out looking on the web instead of ignoring my heart any longer. 5 years removed and she still cares enough about me to tell me not to give up. That is a good friend in my book. |
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Topic:
Beauty or Brains?
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Another interesting statistic for everyone
Facebook Blamed for 1 in 5 U.S. Divorces Facebook fanatics are more than likely miserable with their personal lives, according to a recent report. Infopackets.com A new survey of American marriage lawyers states that Facebook was cited in 1 out of every 5 divorce cases. Tomroyal.com 80 per cent of lawyers polled believe Facebook is now a popular option to begin an extramarital affair. Infopackets.com Top Reason for Divorce Money problems are often cited as the number one cause of divorce in America, but it's impossible to calculate because they are part of a larger cause usually called 'irreconcilable differences', which basically means that a couple couldn't get along. These account for about half of all American divorces. Divorceguide.com Another key cause is adultery, with an estimated quarter of marriages dissolving for this reason. Surprisingly, very few people cite outright abuse as a cause of divorce. Divorceguide.com Lack of commitment to the marriage, lack of communication between spouses, abandonment, alcohol addiction, substance abuse, physical abuse, falling out of love and criminal behavior and incarceration for crime were other reasons cited as cause of divorce. Buzzle.com States with Highest & Lowest Divorce Rates Most people are not surprised to find that Nevada is the American state bearing the highest per capita divorce with a 6.4% divorce rate per 1,000 population. Divorceguide.Com Like marriage in Nevada, divorce in Nevada has been streamlined so that even couples from other states can go there for a quickie divorce. Divorceguide.Com Americans might be surprised, however, to find out which state has the fewest marriages ending in divorce. Statistics show that the crime-laden District of Columbia had the lowest divorce rate, with just 1.7 percent of couples splitting during the last reported year. Divorceguide.Com Yeah why think about what i am doing, who i am doing it with, why i am even doing it or what might happen. I am just going to worry about me, my wants, my desires.... it's all about me me me now now now.......... Seems like it might contribute to the decline, but that's just my thoughts. |
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Topic:
Beauty or Brains?
Edited by
exxman
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Tue 08/09/11 01:12 PM
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 Thanks Lex, i learned something from you that i did not know about.
al·tru·ist (ăl´trū-ĭst) n. One who has an unselfish regard for or is devoted to the welfare of others, as opposed to an egoist; one who is selfless. Sounds like something worth being, for myself.
The problem is, I think very few people go into relationships thinking "I don't care how this impacts on my life, I just want to make them happy." I think it's unnatural to sublimate the desire/intent to have a mutually beneficial, mutually enhancing relationship. Of course, I'm talking strictly in the hypothetical here, as I have yet to see any such thing in my own experience.... We all have our own thought process and way of deriving at how we react/deal with/ and perceive things to be. But i will give you food for thought. This is from 2011 statistics covering previous years in study. According Forest Institute of Professional Psychology, Springfield: The divorce rate in America for first marriage is between 45% to 50%. The divorce rate in America for second marriages is between 60% to 67% The divorce rate in America for third marriages is between 70% to 73% So based on the number's above which are very scary to me; maybe a lot of people should take a step back and look at their approach on relationships. Because based on those number's They did not do something right, or maybe it was all their partner's fault and they did everything right (Shrugs only each person can answer that)from the way i choose to read this, that is a lot of unhappy people. A lot of broken homes. And i am willing to bet there will be a lot of children who will grow up in broken homes with fewer role models to learn from. Hopefully people learn from their own mistakes because they don't want to stay in that cycle. Good thing there is no one keeping stats on how many failed bf/gf relationships we experience or the numbers would more than likely be truly astounding in how many times we get it wrong. What does it take for us to get it right? Maybe we need to change? Maybe not? To each their own But again my comment to you was truly in thanks, i was ignorant of the term and meaning and i am better off for knowing it now (which probably would not have happen had you not said it). So again Thank you Lex. |
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Edited by
exxman
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Tue 08/09/11 12:06 PM
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 I don't wanna quit listening to it
Blake Shelton - Honey Bee 
Girl I been thinkin' 'bout us And you know I ain't good at this stuff But these feelings piling up won't give me no rest This might come out a little crazy A little sideways, yeah maybe I don't know how long it'll take me But I'll do my best Chorus 1: If you'll be my soft and sweet I'll be your strong and steady You be my glass of wine I'll be your shot of whiskey You be my sunny day I'll be your shade tree You be my honeysuckle I'll be your honey bee Yeah that came out a little country But every word was right on the money And I got you smilin' honey right back at me Now hold on 'cause I ain't done There's more where that came from Well you know I'm just havin' fun But seriously Chorus 2: If you'll be my Louisiana I'll be your Mississippi You be my little Loretta I'll be your Conway Twitty You be my sugar baby I'll be your sweet iced tea You be my honeysuckle I'll be your honey bee Your kiss just said it all I'm glad we had this talk Nothin' left to do but fall in each other's arms I could've said a "I love you" Could've wrote you a line or two Baby all I know to do Is speak right from the heart Chorus 1 Chorus 2 I'll be your honey bee
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Topic:
Beauty or Brains?
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I think informed self-interest is going to be a significant factor in people's decisions to enter into those relationships in the first place. There are very few dating sites for altruists, as far as I can tell....! 
Thanks Lex, i learned something from you that i did not know about.
al·tru·ist (ăl´trū-ĭst) n. One who has an unselfish regard for or is devoted to the welfare of others, as opposed to an egoist; one who is selfless. Sounds like something worth being, for myself.
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Edited by
exxman
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Tue 08/09/11 10:27 AM
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Blake Shelton- Honey Bee 
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=xZjosn2u1gA&ob=av2e
Hits replay :-" over n over n over again 
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Rascal Flats - Life is a highway
(has a seat reserved for you , you can show up any time now!!!!!)
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Listening to a local radio station online.
Dierks Bentley - Am i the only one |
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Topic:
Beauty or Brains?
Edited by
exxman
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Tue 08/09/11 10:45 AM
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Who is saying they're not sincere, though? He may disagree with what they've said, or think they're being selfish, but why does that mean they aren't being honest? I m not trying to fight about it because i wont. I am sorry that we have different opinions, but i believe once you read those questions and answer them with an honest answer from your heart, that's when you are being sincere. What he said was there are some selfish answers, and if that is their answer than that is what it is.
How ever i would like to think given the questions he is asking you to think about and then answer, i believe in my heart that there is at least one person who might redo their answer's and maybe send him a thank you for opening their eyes. If anyone challenged the honesty in the comments i guess it might be me, because i really feel like some people would say they weren't being honest, they were being selfish. Or maybe not. Either way my answer stays the same. And if this offends anyone i am sorry, i am just being honest. Hope you have a good day and find a smile from your heart
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Topic:
Beauty or Brains?
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I thought you liked honesty? Should people have said something different in order not to offend you? Something i learned the hard way, i didn't really challenge myself to be honest. I always gave easy answers usually with funny reply's hiding my truth, which in reality were excuses. I don't believe he is offended, i believe he is being sincere and asking for others to do the same. He is even giving great examples of what will hopefully make people answer in an honest and sincere manner with really giving thought to it. Maybe he is going to help a few people open their eyes. Maybe not. But it's not for me to judge. I feel like he is just being real and trying to open some hearts and eyes that appear to be closed to important things. Smooches on Sing's cheek and asks what song ya wanna hear :P i ll be in music lol.
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Topic:
Beauty or Brains?
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Ok, let me throw this at you. Those who chose beautiful. Your telling me that if something happened to their looks their out the door? Beauty certainly has to go deeper than appearance. Brains. So if something happens to their thought process, your done? I see some of these answers as being a little selfish folks. I like your honesty. Some would see at as an attack, i prefer to view it as you are challenging others to look inside themselves and just be honest. You rock in my book dude. Anyone who understands depth of the heart, or honestly makes effort to better understand it and themselves and more importantly make the right changes for the right reasons, earns my respect.
 Cheers dude (i'm not much on drinking but i would buy you a beer)
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Welcome to Mingle2. Hope you find what you seek.
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Topic:
Past Pain
Edited by
exxman
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Tue 08/09/11 09:12 AM
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What can you do to help someone who has gone through terrible experiences as far as love and relationships are concerned? She admits she is lonely and she wants someone but she looks for mistakes instead of the good in a potential. I agree with Sweetest. It's called Projecting. What we give is what we get. If you approach future relationships based off your past one's you never give yourself the chance to be loved much less truly love with your heart. What works for me is examining my past relationships, being accountable for my own actions and my own mistakes. Being honest to myself and making a commitment to do more and be better in my future relationships. When you live in the past the moment passes you by. This was my greatest loss. I spent too many years hiding from the truth instead of confronting it. Quit blaming others and be accountable for what you did or didn't do enough of. Once you accept this and put the effort into it, your life will change & you're Heart will be open to yourself and others. Life is hardly ever fair in the game of love, but once you have a new perspective to live your life from, you will want to love again and maybe more importantly you will know and find you are worth someone else's love. Sorry for rambling on. Best wishes to her, and you keep being an awesome friend to her as she will undoubtedly be needing you in her future. Best wishes to you as well ,
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Adele - Chasing Pavements
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=08DjMT-qR9g&feature=autoplay&list=TL38iYQKuLOpY&index=3&playnext=4 |
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Edited by
exxman
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Mon 08/08/11 07:47 PM
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Adele - Rolling In The Deep
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=rYEDA3JcQqw&feature=autoplay&list=TL38iYQKuLOpY&index=1&playnext=2
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Adele - Love song
really nice rendition http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DyM5jb2ZABs&feature=artistob&playnext=1&list=TL38iYQKuLOpY you make me feel like i am fun again however far away i will always love you however long i stay i will always love you whatever words i say i will always love you i will always love youuuuuuuuuuuu |
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Adele - Make you feel my love
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LLoyNxjhTzc&feature=artistob&playnext=1&list=TLU46Wn6oqsgM Hope ya enjoy, one of my favs that she sings. |
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