It's quite logical: they make an effort to be with you, to see you, because they feel you are worth it.
Men want a confident woman, a high-value woman, one who a) feels herself she is worth it and B) is able to appreciate their effort for them because that shows she is worthy. Again it is able to receive that and to be proud and feel worthy of who you are.
If you then offer to pay because he's made that effort it's a direct message of "I feel guilty you did that for me" by which you A)ruin his good feeling about doing this for a woman who is really worthy and b) you tell him you do NOT feel worthy.
So he then made all that effort for a woman who isn't worthy and/or doesn't appreciate his effort for a woman of High Value, which up to that point he thought you was.
It IS emasculating to a man, unless you have a wuss. A real man will feel emasculated and disappointed. Men want to win. They want the woman they're after to be a prize, worthy and making him feel he's won the jackpot!
You take that away from him the minute you want to pay for the date.
Like Undrrboss says, it's HIS choice to drive that distance.
And yes, you can sure show your appreciation for him doing that. Men do like that. But then go don't go overboard. I once bought a man a cuddly toy because he said he wanted a cuddle when he'd driven 2 hours. In Dutch the word for "cuddle" and "cuddly toy" is the same, hence me doing that. Didn't cost much, impact of appreciation was huge.
Another bloke like crystals, as do I. He drove over 3 hours. I gave him 2-3 tumbled crystals as token of my appreciation. Small things.

And you know, if you feel uncomfortable about these things, you can express that, as long as you do it the right way. Which is not insisting to pay the bill. It is saying something like "I feel a bit uncomfortable..." "I feel..." But do NOT insist to pay.
Learn to receive. Love yourself, then it gets easier.

we dont go any dates, its that simple, hence why I insist on meet and greets for the first time.

If she makes a fuss over me paying for a beverage then I know she has an issue with the guy paying.

so right there I say ciao.

If a woman thinks that by me paying for a date that makes her obligated to me for whatever that is a red flag for me and the opportunity to do the Run forest runnnnnnnnnnnn and making sure the door hits my azz on the way out.

If a guy drives 200 miles to see the girl he is really into that girl, she doesnt have to contribute a thing because she is worth the drive.

if she said come see me 4 times a week and it looks like she is taking advantage of him that is different.

If im in a relationship with her, I don't have a problem with her treating me, if Im on a date with her particularly the first few times out.. no, not happening, she keeps insisting that we go dutch I will insist she go by herself.

Oh so porn voyeurism and self satisfying is strictly a guy thing now...

typical!

I got a shirt last week on sale, very low cut... When I wear it out I should get a picture of me and see if they let me post it

I've been here two weeks and still nothing. I am going to end up an old cat lady at this rate

Good morning everyone

Fervi I don't think David would share his cats, so those should be safe

Happy birthday wishes to your kiddo, how old is she?