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Mon 04/21/08 03:35 AM
Topic: Matchmaking Game - part 68
Yea i know, it just seems like with me it is all the time. I know that i don't have to have someone there to be happy which i am happy but i stay so damn lonely. All the same as lonely as i am i still am being carefull of who i end up with. I don't want any repets of the past.
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Mon 04/21/08 03:13 AM
Topic: Matchmaking Game - part 68

I'm good and you can give me your 2 cents whenever you feel like it. Are you ok?
ummmmmmm yea, i'm ok, just feeling down,it's stupid, i know. Just lonely thats all.
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Mon 04/21/08 03:09 AM
Topic: Do you want to fall in love?

pfffft!!!!grumble The question is.....would anyone fall in love with me??? nHighly unlikely!!!
Ladyliz, i don't believe that. The unlikely part
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Mon 04/21/08 03:02 AM
Topic: give me some advice
Just be honest and be yourself
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Mon 04/21/08 02:56 AM
Topic: Matchmaking Game - part 68
It's all good,tired and getting sleepy.
I'm just running around checking out threads and putting my two or three cense in weather it is appreceated or not. At least some will see some of how i am and fell. Right?
How are you doing?
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Mon 04/21/08 02:49 AM
Topic: Matchmaking Game - part 68
{{Merle}}
{{suzin}}
Hope ya'll have a good day.
Merle sorry your missing your new love, congrates on metting someone by the way.
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Mon 04/21/08 02:26 AM
Topic: i've been going to the bar lately

the reason for this i just realized is cause i am at a point to where the loneliness is really starting to suck. i mainly go for the company now....

i am not in any way an alcoholic, i don't drink at home or drink on the nights where i have to work the next morning and i don't go out really to get a **** faced...


i guess the loneliness is killing me
This is the reason i started going to the bar myself is being lonely. Yes i have my kids in my life and that is dear to me but it is not the same. There is a void there, a lonelyness. I know i don't have to have someone there to be happy but it sure would be nice to have someone there. The thing is you go to the bar and socialize,play pool what ever you leave and go home to an empty bed and what seems to be an empty life,its just a temporary fix for the few that realy want a relationship. If i come across a lady that we both want to comit to each other i will walk away from the bar seen so fast they won't know what happened.
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Mon 04/21/08 02:15 AM
Topic: i've been going to the bar lately


I'm sorry, I wasn't trying to make it about myself. I was trying to help someone not fall into a cycle of going to bars as a coping mechanism for loneliness by using an example. Just like everyone else. I'm sorry if the advice wasn't appreciated. I shall now ceast and desist. Again, my apologies. sad


I can see where she was coming from!!!!! Give her a break!!!!
Yea i can see where she is comeing from too. what i wrote above just pertains to me. There are a lot of people that go to the bar just to hook up and the drunks do tend to get on your nurves expetaily if your not drunk. I've seen it all, some people can get preaty stupid when they get drunk.
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Mon 04/21/08 02:01 AM
Topic: i've been going to the bar lately

I'm not a bar basher. I don't have a problem going to a bar. But when you feel compelled to go there every day for 15+ years(ex), then the bottom line is you need to get a life. My ex wanted to be a player, that's why he was there all the time. That's why he got a part time job there. He was obsessed with the place. He still is;he's probably there right now. And my ex said the same thing about his bar, that it was more like Cheers. Yeah, right-every body says that. laugh
Well maybe your ex is a smooth talker or something. I work part time at a bar as a bouncer. I have only done it sence i became single. while i was married i hardly ever went to the bar and my ex was always there. It is very rare that i have left with or gotten a number from a woman at the bar for sexual reasons. I talk to women at the bar but i don't look for anything. Yes i look sometimes and wish, i'm only human, but then i just forget it and go on.
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Mon 04/21/08 01:39 AM
Topic: i've been going to the bar lately

At least your getting laid pretty regular right? That's the up side to the bar scene.
Just because someone is at the bar here and there dose not mean they are getting laid.
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Sun 04/20/08 05:18 AM
Topic: Deal breakers

Cheating...
Lying...
Abuse...verbal or mental...
Games...I'm too old to do the game thing and not gonna...


flowerforyou drinker flowerforyou drinker

I'd go with this also
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Sun 04/20/08 05:10 AM
Topic: my bf!

Why don't you just start talking about the future and ask him to tell you what he envisions. Take the cues from there.
This would be a good start
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Sun 04/20/08 05:04 AM
Topic: What is your Purpose?

Sounds like that girl's been reading The Purpose Filled Life, good book, available at any Wal Mart for around $10 or less on the internet.

The book basically says that our purpose is to serve god through worship (a relationship with him), fellowship, discipleship (learning), a ministry of service to other believers and a mission to unbelievers.

Further it says that life is a trust to see what we do with God's resources (the money, time, talents and other things He lends to us)

It says that life is a test to see when and where we will be kind to other people. Whether we say hello, whether we're polite and other things.

And it says that life is a temporary assignment on Earth.

And everything else kind of follows.

It's a good purpose to have, IMHO. Could you give it a try?
God wanted a being that would worship him out of free will. So he made humans on Earth with the angle there that he kicked out of heaven so the us humans would be able to make a choice of to serve god or serve this angle that is going to be cast into hell. so your purpose is to decide which you want to follow and all else will fall in line. Like i said before ya'll probably don't want me to get started on this.
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Sun 04/20/08 04:45 AM
Topic: what dose it mean
He may always be in your mind somewhere but over time the pain will go away if you let it all go and then you will be able to move on. You might should wait awhile before you get with someone else. Let your mind get at ease.
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Sun 04/20/08 04:30 AM
Topic: good man
Well i'm close to my mom but i'm not a mommas boy. I think i learn't how to treat woman from her and my stepdad and church. I am old school. I man or woman should treat the other the way they want to be treated.
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Sat 04/19/08 03:00 AM
Topic: JSH crushes - part 4
One of these days i'll have a mutual crush
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Sat 04/19/08 01:53 AM
Topic: SINGLE or TAKEN? - part 5
Edited by smuflicker on Sat 04/19/08 02:50 AM
still single
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Fri 04/18/08 05:31 PM
Topic: how many guys




Hey 2b, i have a set of si's too.


That's great, do you practice with them?
I use to. Looking at getting back to it. I use to study Ruku Kempo and Gojo Ru


I am familier with that style, my main style is Kenpo and escrima.. been doing it for 30 years...
There is not a hole lot of difference between kenpo and kempo but there is a difference
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Fri 04/18/08 05:18 AM
Topic: Matchmaking Game - part 66
Hope you get to feeling better bro.
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Fri 04/18/08 05:17 AM
Topic: how many guys


Hey 2b, i have a set of si's too.


That's great, do you practice with them?
I use to. Looking at getting back to it. I use to study Ruku Kempo and Gojo Ru
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