What I'm looking for...

a friend, maybe more in the future. Mostly someone that can keep a conversation, with dabbles of goodhearted debates (not arguments, completely different), a least somewhat optimistic, and happy about themselves! I don't mind being the shoulder to cry on but confidence in yourself is awesome.

Granted, humans are selfish by nature, making decisions based on the satisfaction of our needs. Almost animalistic in nature?

And haha, yes, the ol' story of love is blind or love makes people crazy.



I'm sure the collective has a filing system set up for anyone that questions against the norm. haha :D



What is it you want to discuss?

I may ramble here for a minute but bear with me, I'm getting some thoughts out.

So I've been reading through some of the topics on the community forum here and it got me thinking.

Are most people on here because they feel they need a relationship or that they simply want one?

I feel like the odd one out.

I don't feel like I need a relationship. It's nice to have one, feels good to have one, can be convenient, makes you feel fulfilled if it's a deep enough connection, and can help you to develop or further yourself as an individual. Further you emotionally, physically, or even psychologically.

A need as in...a drive, per se. A drive to fulfill that desire.

Then you have the want. Where you can be completely by yourself and content in that feeling. Where you can be alone for days on end and not utter a single word and not feel any less for it.

So if someone comes along that you would like to be around more and enjoy, perhaps learn from each other, and find a deep connection with, it's great! Awesome! You don't have that incessant feeling that you need to be next to that person 24/7. Where you can be who it is you are and do what it is you want to do without the person always having to be right at your side.

Then whenever you are done with whatever it is you need to do, you come back, and lo and behold, there they are. They want to be with you as well.

Perhaps I am confusing this with another sense, thought or feeling. Yet with the communication that I do have with others, I keep seeing this 'need' rather than want, and a depression if they do not fill that need. A sadness if they are by themselves out there somewhere.

So to the point, is it really a need for someone or is it a need to fulfill for yourself?

At home, relaxing on my day off. XD

What constitutes plus size these days? I believe I'm a healthy size!

In Asia, I'm a plus size. In America, I'm about average. In my mind, I'm a spunky spitfire that loves what I love!

My personal daily goal: Learn at least one interesting fact that day, doesn't matter if it's silly, political, religious, etc.

Trying to figure things out in the area I just moved to. Seems there's very little to do unless you know someone who knows someone haha.

Hey all,

New to the forum. How's everyone doing?