So I've been talking to this girl online recently. I've VERY flattered that she took the courage to message me, and she seems really sweet, and I think we have a lot in common. The problem is, the more I look at her pictures, the more I realise there's probably no way I can make myself physically attracted to her in a romantic or sexual way. I know it's a harsh thing to say, and physical attraction isn't everything, but it's an important component that has to be there. Because she's very nice, I tried to convince myself that maybe there's a way, but now I've come to terms with the fact that I don't think I could "make" myself physically attracted to her. :-(

It seems that telling someone, "I'm just not attracted to you physically" is a really mean and hurtful thing to say. It destroys their self-esteem. I know I wouldn't like it. But lying to them and saying, "I'm just too busy right now" could come back to bite you in the ass when 3 months from now she sees that you're in a relationship. Continuing to keep her dangling, and keeping her hopes up seems also unconscionable, and wastes both of our time.

Do I "owe" her a first date? Would it be easier or nicer to reject her after giving her a "chance"? Or would it be more morally wrong to have made her go out on that date, even though you've already written her off in your mind? I know many would say, "pictures can lie both ways", but I've seen plenty of pictures of her, and I'm quite certain she's not my type. :-(

I guess this bothers me very much because she is a very nice and sweet girl, and I wish I didn't have to hurt her feelings.

have him marry yoko ono in lieu of jail time

take her back to the future in a delorean

i agree with u


>>>>>>does not do sympathy dates,why waste my time!!!