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Hi Terry, The person may not have testimonials enabled. Oop's a little late. what if you want the person to remove the testimonial that you had left but yet you can get them to contact you back in order to do so can one of the mods remove it The member whose profile it is on would have to remove the testimonial. Each member controls what is on their profile. If I undersand u correctly...he wants to add a testo not remove one..... 
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Tell me,,if ya know? If I had an already friend here,,and wanted to give them a testamonial,,but they had NONE yet,,where would I find their icon to click to give them one???? 
I know WHERE it always IS,,,when someone alreday has some,,,but I have never did a first yet?? Matter of fact Terry I don't know were ur beautiful testimonies to me from you are.... I want them back.... going to go look...for them.. they are my treasures here... xoxoxo.to u Suz now I can sleep..they are here with me.... What are u doing anyway....u wanna talk on the phone..... but send u testimonie out first....to whom ever.... I up for a bit longer.. let me know or I will just crash.....lmao..... |
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Tell me,,if ya know? If I had an already friend here,,and wanted to give them a testamonial,,but they had NONE yet,,where would I find their icon to click to give them one????
I know WHERE it always IS,,,when someone alreday has some,,,but I have never did a first yet?? Matter of fact Terry I don't know were ur beautiful testimonies to me from you are.... I want them back.... going to go look...for them.. they are my treasures here... xoxoxo.to u Suz |
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Abusive Relationships
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there will be more abusive relationships for you in the future...the past is no indicator for future results adage applies only to stocks, doesn't stand true for relationships ... maybe the guy isn't abusive at all, perhaps he's opinionated and saying whats on his mind and your perception of that is abuse..there are no examples of abuse except for "no matter what I say Im always wrong. He makes me feel bad about myself" .. and this doesn't even qualify for abuse since its so general...i know hundreds of girls that feel bad about themselves and there's not even a guy in the equation.. roko he makes me feel bad about myself when he compares me to other girls that are in his eyes considered beautiful and he makes jokes about my body. thats not abuse, but to call me the maid in the house and when i have to fight with him about doing the damn dishes or cleaning the bathroom or even vacuuming and he tells me to stfu ***** and just do it, i live here for free its the least i can do. yea i take that as abuse considering he lives for free and i dont run under his command. he says these bad things that im selfish and a ***** and heartless and its just not true. because i go against what he wants me to be doing, is when he lashes out and calls me names and gets pissed. i dont have to stand for that. Ok so...leave...find your own place to live 
if it were that simple i would have by now as i wrote in another post last night..."I'll grab one leg and u grab the other" anyone up for pulling this young lady out of the fire???? I just had a cig..and I need another... 2;15 a.m....she's off...she comes back tomorrow... I will be back.....  
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Abusive Relationships
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I think she may have signed off... Let's hope the guy didn't look to see what she was chatting about on here. that would really suck.... From another site...I convinced a friend to drive to virginia...to get a abuse woman......bad shape....alot of the abuse was from the site... With my mouth and passion...I got permenantly band from the site... But I helped another female in distress.... |
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Here is my 2cents: I am 38. I got divorced last year. After the divorce a guy I bowled with and seen at least 1 a week for a year, offered me a job working for him. I liked him as a person and thought I would like to date him, I also needed a job, so I accepted the job. It wasn't long and we started dating. He was great I was so happy. I moved in with him and then I started noticing things. We were together 24/7. He would get upset if I talked to anyone. It didnt matter if it was a friend or family. He called me all the time. If he didnt get his way he would make it sound like he did so much for me and I didnt do anything for him. He told me how much he loved me, and he even told me how I didnt love him. Now if you haven't caught on yet, this man was controlling. When things were good, they were real good. But when he didn't approve of something I did or that HE THOUGHT was wrong, crap hit the fan. The guilt trips started!!!! When guilt trips didnt work, all the mean things he could think of would come out of his mouth. Now this man never hit me!!! But emotional abuse is just as bad as physical. I know I have been through that also. I realized one day that I was asking myself : "wow is what he said true am I like that?" Now I knew better, I wasnt like that but I was still doubting myself. Finally I realized that this man that loved me and that I loved. Was doing nothing more than killing my self esteem!! He was doing it to have control over me. I admit it was very mildly that he was doing this, but i knew the signs and I also talked to friends about it and they told me to get away from him!!! We broke up a few times and I noticed the stronger i was the more argueing we did. I finally told him. I love you but for me to be truely happy, I cant be with you. I packed up my things and left. Yep I went back a few times. STUPID!!! But again I kept my eyes open and he was still doing the same thing. Each time we broke up quicker and quicker until a month ago I said goodbye and meant it. I seen him tonight and he told me he thinks of me daily and loves me and wanted to know if I ever thought of him. I told him I do think of him, but we dont see eye to eye and I wouldnt get back with him. I hope this may help you decide what you want to do. By the way I kept going back to him because of a few reasons. I did love him. I also needed a job (he fired me everytime we broke up). And well my family that I lived with made me feel like I was imposing by staying at there house, no matter what I did, it wasnt good enough either. So I kept going back to him. Better men are out there.. it may take awhile to find him, but one day you will. I am having a hard time reading paragraphs..I need glasses.. What I got from it ..is a part of the mental abuse came in the form of you second quessing urself....became stripped of your intellligence,,,emotions....your identity as who you are... when my children were babies I asked him one day.."why do you treat me so badly and say such horrible things to me and to others about me"? His responce was because "he felt I was the mentally stronger of the 2 of us".... He got 3 middle fingers and became 1 lonely man for yrs..... I left....healthy..with my children.... |
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Sam u haven't responded to me.... Do you have parents to go to or some other adult that u trust?????? Before you make a move..you have to let ppl in and know in our world what is happening..... The safety circle......... Hellooooooo plz.......... I do have people I can go to. Not parents right now though. I Have an older strong figure in my life to go to. I have, to talk things out, but I hardly ever get any advice on what to do next. I just need someone to tell me how to stand up for myself so for once I have the last word. sweetheart, ur last word could be ur last word... As a mother...as a woman,,as an abused female emotionally from ur age....it became a visious cycle...of having a wonderful happy life in a relationship,and other various reprocussions that we live healthy with ..but the risk involved with staying is and will be terrible.. statistics..are not on ur side...(FACT)...... go to a womans shelter or womans abuse hot line....seriously.... talk to them.... u have heard from those of experience....now go talk to the professioanals....... This is also why I am so happy I don't have a daughter....someone would have been dead.....I would have killed for my son..cercumstances were different and worked out... for me..I left faster each time in life....be willing for change...for you... 
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there will be more abusive relationships for you in the future...the past is no indicator for future results adage applies only to stocks, doesn't stand true for relationships ... maybe the guy isn't abusive at all, perhaps he's opinionated and saying whats on his mind and your perception of that is abuse..there are no examples of abuse except for "no matter what I say Im always wrong. He makes me feel bad about myself" .. and this doesn't even qualify for abuse since its so general...i know hundreds of girls that feel bad about themselves and there's not even a guy in the equation.. roko u have to be freaking kidding......the mind of roko....I may as well put a gun to my head...  
were is the bite me icon......
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Abusive Relationships
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Sam, he might have been at one time your best friend, but a true friend would never abuse you. Another thing is that verbal abuse can lead to physical abuse. I am not saying that it will, but it can. You can not stay in a situation like that for long. And realise that you can not change him. For your mental and physical health I would suggest getting away A.S.A.P. Good luck Exactly,,,god I would love to just shave off a the abuse part for her...andsave her energy for all the good out there... without what the effects off it is... I protected my youngest son his whole freaking life from being bullied,used by a girl...and his own father.....etc. In the process I taught him and gave him his tool...he still talks to me..we debate a lot at this time..which is great.... See if I meet that loving, caring, financally rich soul that would give me the oportunity to put my energies on none paid possitions....I'd be a happy camper ,working towards caring for another and my passion, to share my experience and knowledge... I don't have a degree...so it's about humanitarian deeds and giving freely, for those in need..like this... I should have been a cop.... I want to be a social worker.....I wish they checked your background and intence interigation to see if you are qualified.. I've seen some real dumb *****... Woman..you and I are so a like.. 
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Sam u haven't responded to me....
Do you have parents to go to or some other adult that u trust?????? Before you make a move..you have to let ppl in and know in our world what is happening..... The safety circle......... Hellooooooo plz.......... |
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Sam, he might have been at one time your best friend, but a true friend would never abuse you. Another thing is that verbal abuse can lead to physical abuse. I am not saying that it will, but it can. You can not stay in a situation like that for long. And realise that you can not change him. For your mental and physical health I would suggest getting away A.S.A.P. Good luck Woman..you and I are so a like.. |
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Hey all, I recently accepted that I am in an emotionally abusive relationship with someone I call my best friend. I would love to hear from any of you that have been in or are in a relationship you just can't get yourself out of, but one youre too afraid to leave. I love this guy so much, he's my best friend, has done so much for me as I have for him.. but I think I tend to make excuses to stay (by stay I mean continue living with him or move back home which is 100 miles away) We both are going to school and trying to be adults together, doing everything "together" and its causing tension in a weird way. I just recently got out of a phase of being interested in a romantic relationship with him, and now that Im moving on something just doesnt feel right, but thats not the issue at hand. Im scared to speak up because no matter what I say Im always wrong. He makes me feel bad about myself, but sometimes he makes me feel so good. He makes me laugh, but he makes me cry. The constant fighting is something I just dont want to deal with anymore.. its not worth it, and Im debating whether or not he is worth it anymore. Please tell me how to get over this, or tell stories that you have been through to give me the courage to over come this. I can use all the help I can get.\ you are 18 yrs old....I can tell you every experience I have endured... right now.....that knowlege I feel at this time comes secondary, You need the advise from ur parents or an adult ur most close to... To protect YOU...YOU need to get out asap... Yrs later....it will come back and hawnt you.... Emotion abuse starting at 18....will set you back and leave you to miss the best times of your life.... Love YOU..... Your relationship is like fishing....treats you bad....then throws the line... Control.... I begg of you to get HeLP.. Thats what I have told many of my sons g/f or female friends. |
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im planning to join the national guard asap and go to afghanistan. so i just wonder what advice all you afghanistan vets out there have for me. espesally what i should do to improve my chances of coming home alive. i understand its a war and there are no garentees of that. anyway what do you think? Ya know???...give me a second while I bite my slim jim... Ur profile says u are "MILITARY"..... Here it states quote"I PLAN ON GOING INTO",you want to go into (NG) and then go to AFGHAN.... With all that you have written.....even what you haven't written...I feel I can speak for many here,I know I can say it..... I have never told any child ,young adult....that means you 23yrs old.... Gotta do it again for his safety and the safety of his comrads.... I think you should change your life goals to something else... 
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respect from my sons..I'm the luckiest mom. I was fortunate to be able to say the same,fact is,mine still have the respect for me... The little humans I brought into this world, I gave them all the tools and knowledge to be strong and independant.... But..since eventually, my parenting happiest unpaid ,unapreciated by many,has come to a screatching halt. Some from...the norm....young independant men..When I signed their birth cert. I signed a oath...we all did... So, I felt that with all my sons and I did toghether...to strive.... and succeed with our most precious goals... I didn't have the opportunity to polish one...I didn't have the choice either...out of my hands.... I have finally gotten to except, my sons choice,most days...lol.. Though it is a high stress time for my family and any military/family And it hasn't been a bed of roses.... My son just responded to me...with the respect I understand and know of whom he is....it was a wonderful...he only answered my question and logged out in my mid sentence... What I do see...is the polish....for him at his age, what he has done Honorably with his young life....makes me smile...but My patient level low... In 2 yrs...I will see a return of the son,matured,civilian,shine. So I thank the USMC... If he comes back ****ed up.....I'm sure I will be wering my USMC shirt, "Lock and Load....lol When that 1 line of communication opened, I knew...right now he took another oath and then many more...very young.. Now our conversing has change to a new post....lol...cause I can really type talk.... I just lost my train of thought... 
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I'm just the opposite. I will gladly go to work if I can come home to a clean house, mowed lawn and dinner. I enjoy my job but it is getting harder to do it all so I want a house husband without the marriage certificate
oh honeyyyy, I would keep the house clean, dinners made,most of the time the lawn would be on you..or the landscapers... I'm not talking about wearing a diamond crown on my head....
I find a good landscaper honeyyyyy....don't worry I'm not sitting on my *** eating bon bons while u bust ur tail... 
I'll be here..have a great time at work my love...lmao..xo not yet....had to keep an eye on the elderly so she doesn't burn the house down....o boy ur next..what would you like????.... sorry dude..bacon cheese burger on the menue....want lettuce, a slice of tomatoe...any other topping u want on it...lmao u not home to take me out for fine dining..
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I'm just the opposite. I will gladly go to work if I can come home to a clean house, mowed lawn and dinner. I enjoy my job but it is getting harder to do it all so I want a house husband without the marriage certificate
oh honeyyyy, I would keep the house clean, dinners made,most of the time the lawn would be on you..or the landscapers... I'm not talking about wearing a diamond crown on my head....
I find a good landscaper honeyyyyy....don't worry I'm not sitting on my *** eating bon bons while u bust ur tail...
I'll be here..have a great time at work my love...lmao..xo not yet....had to keep an eye on the elderly so she doesn't burn the house down....o boy ur next..what would you like????.... |
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Reincarnation
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I wanna be a Bald Eagle. majestic, beautiful, powerful....and protected by the law
And....I want to be your mate....just not bald....little fluff thing on top of head would be cool... we would rule the skies.....
honeyyy..did u have a bad day at work...here let me give u ........ lmao that was quick....did u leave early??? |
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(Bedlum) So you play the guitar...? I've been playin for over 27yrs...Hendrix,Zappa,Santana and of course the old blue greats Muddy,Lightnin' Hopkins,J Lee Hooker... Just to name a few of my favorite influences... I glad you like the beer up here...We have been perfecting it for many years now...No complaints so far...Its gotta be that Canadian water they make it with EH! I'm French Canadian....EH....lol brothers and i would say tha alphabet when my parents would say "EH".... memorries... |
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I need help
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you think you've got problems im going to afghanistan. then i'll have real problems there called ied's, snipers, small arms fire, car bombs, and suicide bombers. I HEAR YOU....If you weren't scared..u wouldn't be human. My own Marine going into his 2nd deployment has expressed his fear...at the same time...he is ready.... Do or die....he is trained...he is prepared to kill....to live... My prayers for ur safety as well as all our miltary.....are on going... Just know..there are a lot of ppl who are standing beside u in a very tough and scary time.... Be safe, alert, and low... Suzanne xoxo |
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You should be able to find a military guy that won't mind....seems such offers I get like that were military and I won't date them..since your a marine mom you might look in that direction. Wow ...that reminds me...I have to make my reservation to go to a meeting on base here this month.....I need my permission slip to get on base.... 
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