After reading every post here, I guess, my real advise, there is always Viagra.

One advantage would be that you experience what you believe to be love and possibly learn from the experience.

The disadvantages would be relative to the intricacies of the situation and there consequences.

If the age difference was part of the attraction the chances of outgrowing a parent child relationship are high for both participants

some questions I would ask

Is the wife aware of your relationship?

What are the consequences of adultery in the country you are in?

What do you expect to gain from pursuing the relationship?

What is stopping you from pursuing this relationship?
Its not clear to me whether you have actually reached the status of mistress yet and its easier to ask than sift through the thread to find out

I wouldn't know, sorry. I never fell in love with a married man who's 25 years older

Why not uncomplicate things and find someone single like me?

Ummm, how can you be sure that the only other woman a married man is fooling around with is his wife? Aren't you fooling around with him? Who knows how many others there are?

there are no advantages ..

A married man who is doing YOU and also doing his Wife is NOT a man .. he is a boy.

Men give them selves to their woman ... no one else touches them.

Boys ... well, are sex addicts, greedy and stingy, make a mess, always wanting something from you, and argue quibble fight.

Men are generous, kind, want not and have nothing to prove.

there is more to the differences between boys and men.

However, a boy becomes a man ... by giving him self to his woman and thus stops f'ing around with every thing as a natural consequence of such a discipline.

sumbuddie wear blind sea

Stop while u can! It took me 6mths to find out my man lol is married!
Does ur man take u out? Do u get sleep overs? Does he spoil u?
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upon reading all ur opinions I think she s ready for a big change
in fairness above
mentioned r routines also
sleep overs on special ocassions(anniversaries/birthdays / holidays) dinning out f both of them r free and week ends get away
pda s not a problem btw.
and very generous financially speaking

A married man is also not a catfish.

Just to say,I am a Married Man but I would leave My Wife in a Flash if I could find another lady who really wants to be with me. There will be No Fist Fight and The 25 years age gap all depends on each others Attitude and hat hey are looking for.

Thank You

It doesn't seem like you want to hear what other people think - only what you want to hear - so I'll just say...

The minute you (anyone) finds out, the person you are "involved with" is married - you should end it! Period.

It doesn't matter what you want or need - it's not the right thing to do!

It doesn't matter what other people do - it's still wrong. :)

I do not understand why anyone in Lebanon would be asking people outside of Lebanon for their opinion about a subject pertaining to morality.

What people use as a moral compass isn't universal.

This single woman - who wants to be with a married man - is going to have to deal with the society that she is in, not a society that is elsewhere.

we're not hiding. Just working to much.

FFS! Cheating is cheating and it's wrong, no matter how someone twists it! Your "friend" and the married man should be ashamed! You wouldn't like it if you were the wife, so stop justifying it

Hey OP ... with Marriage Papers you get Divorce Papers to toss him or her out.

With just hooking up and living together under the same roof .. then you need to get Restraining Order Papers to toss them out of the house as most states do not recognize common law marriage. Still in the ones that do ... still need to cut papers to toss them out.

Just saying ....

sumbuddie wear blind sea

u totally got the whole scenario.
they`re married for 30 years/2 children both r married. wife n her 50`s have a lot of medical dramas
b4 3 years doctor said. She s not allowed to have sexual contact anymore.
Wife asked for a divorce for this reason but he didnot leave her.
They r living together but there's a

Sometimes it's just about intimacy and sexual needs that are not met by your partner.

Say you have a spouse who decided unilaterally that sex was over but in most every other sense is a loving wonderful partner. (edit out all the medical drama) Does that condemn the other spouse to a life without ever again experiencing real intimacy and sexual fullness of life?

Say this situation has gone on for twenty plus years. Do you condemn that other spouse for the years of putting up with that unilateral declaration? Do you apply labels to that or, better still, if they'd just like to feel appreciated and attractive and loved in a physical sense?


Sometimes it's just about intimacy and sexual needs that are not met by your partner.

How can someone love you but doesn't care for you...that isn't love...coz love goes hand in hand with caring for one

Neither.


Depends on who I am in this scenario of choice.
Me as I am now, neither is better than being alone or finding another option.

If I was the type of person that was shopping for a relationship for my ego, my primary focus was on my career, my me space, my freedom, then the "better" partner out of those 2 choices would be someone who loves me but doesn't care for me.
If they loved me (but didn't care for me, whatever "care" means) they'd communicate it simply and clearly, if they didn't care for me their interference in my life and my priorities would be minimal, they wouldn't be all that motivated to insinuate themselves all that deeply demanding constant feedback and validation for their feelings.

If I was the type of person who was looking for like a sugar daddy, then it would be someone who cared for me but doesn't love me.
They would attempt to fill that missing "love" hole with gifts and behavior to make up for the lack of love, or to make the relationship seem more deep than it is, plus they wouldn't just rely on their "feelings" to make me happy enough to give them what they want.