your age....................wait....what experience could you have with this? everyone is a library, no matter who they are, and can bring something to the "table" so to speak, BUT!

with the exclusion of me, because i'm a monster, a real one, and a rather hidious one at that, i agree....

you are talking to people with over 500 years of combined experience, and wounded ones no less!!! that have been through a bunch of guys like you!!! and you are trying to tell them what's what? ooohh this is good! it's too good! this is rich indeed!!!

are you a used car salesman young man?

or are you an "as seen on TV" infomercial guy?

there will eventually be a girl.... that will take you. you have good looks, and you have an ego, and you're a "tough guy", but you will run into a barrier and get hurt.....fast ones fall hard. you will never be rich enough....... you can earn a billion.....doesn't matter. there's always someone more on top of it than you. just life, and facts. nobody can argue my point.

if this is the case, why identify them as girlfriends? sounds like an intention to deceive

sounds like they are all just friends who you can sleep with,,,,,

but again, semantics are a nice diversion,,,

i wouldn't say i'm all that. you humble me with the positive notion though, thankyou....

on topic:

what one loses when they cheat, is their integrity. if i know a person is cheating, that i am acquainted with, or working with, and hiding something, i'm certainly not going to trust them, because they will eventually come to that conclusion to me, as, let's say they borrowed money from me....they, because i'm now a bother, and a thorn in their side, (even know i saved their *** earlier) will find and justify a reason not to pay me, because i'm now "lame" and ruining their fun, and when they want something aaagain, they wanna be all buddy buddy, and aawwe, that ole thing? let bygones be bygones, and .....lend me sommore money fool!

when you cheat, you cheat on yourself, and break your WORD! it's the most valuable thing you have in life with a friend....

most that don't know this, haven't burned enough bridges yet i guess....

where did the integrity go?

I dont advise it but the 'wrong' is in the lie that some people live allowing a partner to think they are in an exclusive relationship or expecting a partner to be in an exclusive relationship if they are not

if people are being honest with each other in what they are planning, and their partner is fine with it,,,,thats not quite the same thing as a loving commitment,, thats just people being 'honest' and having their fun,,,

Well make up your mind, are you selfish or not?...

if there is MORE than one, its not EXCLUSIVE,,,,

but people can AGREE to non exclusive commitments,, what they are committing to is a mystery to me though,,,

just sounds like roommates with benefits, nothing exclusive or committed about that except for the rent that must be paid for either to keep a roof over their head ( a commitment to a landlord,,lol)

love does not have to be exclusive or absolute,, commitments are absolute though

I'm guessing you're between the ages of 18 and 21...Am I close?

love is not exclusive, it can exist along with all other emotions, from anger, to hate

certainly , during the stages of any of those other emotions, if they overtake the love , betrayals can happen

but they are still betrayals,,,

Pretty good article...food for thought anyway...


5 Reasons Why Couples Cheat

One of the worst heartaches comes from being cheated on by someone you have invested all your trust, energy and compassion in. When a partner says, I can't explain why I did it, there was no reason for it, it means that they cheated because they simply weren't happy in the relationship and feel as though they are lacking in some part of the relationship. But for what reasons would someone enter a meaningless hook-up when they already have a stable relationship?

From an outside perspective it is uncalled for - so what is going through the mind of a cheater? There are always underlying factors evident that have unfortunately not been communicated and have managed to cause such a disturbance in the relationship.

1. Lack of Communication

Sometimes a couple lacks the communication skills necessary to voice how they feel when something is missing from their relationship. Perhaps it's the sex or the time spent together. Whatever the reason, something is missing and is making one person in the relationship unhappy. Because of this, trust and honesty are both sacrificed and before you know it, one partner is confessing they were unfaithful.

Being incapable of expressing the problems you see with your relationship is problematic and is a main factor that leads to dishonesty and cheating.

2. Different Views

When a couple has differing perspectives concerning what kind of relationship they ultimately want, problems might be inevitable in the long run. The fact that one partner might be less serious and committed to the relationship at stake could be a valid indicator of cheating tendencies.

In reality, if someone doesn't have the will to commit to a relationship, they shouldn't be in one. Such feelings only lead to cheating and heartbreak.

3. Lack of Effort

While a couple might have had an unbelievable romance and a relationship built on trust and honestly, it has the potential to falter. It takes time and effort to make a relationship work, and when the effort in a relationship is unbalanced and is on one partner's behalf to rekindle the romance, cheating might be an outcome.

It is crucial for both partners to provide the same amount of dedication in order for the relationship to be successful. If this doesn't happen, one might cheat to find the romance they secretly desire.

4. Revenge

If a relationship is built on hostility and hurtful revenge, heartache is likely to follow. When a partner is unfaithful, it might cause the other partner to be unfaithful too. Unfortunately, a snowball effect might be created and suddenly the relationship has become two individuals trying to get back at one another for creating such complications. Of course this doesn't accomplish anything and is a waste of time for both involved.

5. State of Mind

Sometimes alcohol is involved in the cheating process and a partner might do something they would likely not do if they were in the right state of mind. However, this is not an excuse. If this situation could be used as an excuse, one can only imagine the lack of trust and commitment in relationships.

However intoxicated an individual might be, they should still think before they act and in this case, they should still care about the one they are with. If they can't do this then they should avoid drinking and making such regrettable decisions.


HAPPINESS IS KEY...

You live, you love, you learn, and when it comes down to it, when you have found someone who makes you genuinely happy, you will not cheat. Of course, there is no such thing as the perfectly happy couple, but once you've found someone who you trust and can't imagine hurting, cheating will not cross your train of thought because what else could you possibly be searching for?

Cheating is a sign that you either don't want to be committed to that person or something is missing in your current love life that you think is only possible to find elsewhere.