yep. and with more than half of marraiges ending in divorce that says much about how seriously we take vows. i find it strange that people are only looking for a "commited relationship". can somebody tell me just what a commitment is when half of all marriages end with the breaking of the commitment? and we're talking not only about promises made to another person before whatever god you might worship, we're talking about a legal commitment. i doubt that more than few here are qualified to judge others as to what is and what is not cheating. but if you're that pure in your past relationships then what are you doing here looking for a new mate. you promised youself to another for life. did you put in a disclaimer that says, "only if we can stand each other during the entire period of that life"? most of us over fifty have promised ourselves to others and broken that promise. often justified to be sure, but it depends on who's doing the justifying.